There are many people who claim that the modern divorce rate is the result of a generation unwilling to compromise or wait things out in relationships. However, the truth is that divorce rates have gone up because divorce is more socially acceptable. People feel comfortable leaving relationships that are unhappy or toxic when they may not have made the same decision decades ago.
You may find yourself wondering whether your issues with your spouse are something that you can resolve or if divorce is in your future. While no one can answer that question for you, there are some serious warning signs that may indicate that divorce is inevitable.
You can't talk to one another without fighting anymore
Arguments are a fact of life when you live with another human. Even the best marriages sometimes have angry fights that can last several days or longer. However, if you find that you are constantly arguing with your spouse or that you keep coming back to the same exact topic without resolving it, that may be a warning sign that divorce is in your future. If you and your spouse can both commit to couples therapy, you may be able to work through those issues and save your marriage.
Infidelity, addiction or abuse have damaged your family
Some of the biggest issues that families face relate to one parent developing addiction or backsliding into an addiction they had previously addressed. Whether it is to pornography, alcohol, gambling or drugs, addiction can destabilize an entire family unit.
Abuse is also a serious issue that families typically cannot resolve or recover from. If one spouse is abusive toward the other or toward the children, divorce may be the only solution that protects everyone.
Finally, infidelity breaks the basic trust between spouses, which can lead to resentment and divorce. If you can't openly and willingly forgive and move on, it could very well mean that infidelity could impact your marriage for the rest of your lives.
You resent or hate things about your spouse that you used to love
Do you lie awake at night, cursing yourself for getting married because your spouse snores? Do habits and quirks that previously made you smile now make you want to scream? When people grow apart over time, the forced closeness of the marital union can lead to intense resentment and anger.
If your marriage has already reached the point where aspects of who your spouse is have started to drive you crazy, it may be time to consider divorce. Talking to an attorney as soon as possible can help you protect yourself and your financial interests, in a divorce.
The good news is that divorce is more socially acceptable than it once was, as well as easier to achieve than in the past. You can even work together with your spouse to file an uncontested divorce that helps keep things as amicable as possible.