While it can be difficult to come to the conclusion that you want to go through a divorce, it can be even harder to open up the discussion to your friends and family. You may be worried about the expectations that your friends and family have of you, and you won’t want to disappoint them. While it’s understandable that you would be concerned about the opinions of people you love, you must take action to do what is best for you and your children.

Try to remind yourself of the reasons why you took action to get a divorce. See these reasons as armor you can wear when you find that you are doubting your actions or worrying about whether others will approve. If you are worried about breaking the news of your divorce to your family and friends, consider the following tips.

Define why the divorce was appropriate and necessary
It’s easy to blame the other spouse for the occurrence of the divorce. However, try to avoid giving a one-sided account of how the divorce broke down. Formulate a sentence or simple explanation regarding the breakdown of your marriage. Not only will it help you to explain the divorce easily to loved ones, but it may help you to fully process and accept the events that took place.

Tell your loved ones what role they can play
The friends and family of those going through a divorce often feel confused and unsure about what they can do to help your situation. You may be able to reduce this feeling of redundancy by explaining what would help you at this time. It may be that you just need someone to talk to, or that you would like occasional help with childcare while you are managing the more complex aspects of divorce.

Provide updates
By updating your family and friends often, you will be able to provide them with opportunities to help and support you. Frequent communication will help everyone involved.

If you are considering or approaching divorce, it is important to have a supportive network. This will help you to stay resilient throughout the entire journey.